I'm specialised in mediating disputes and clashes within partnerships, and I will support you finding a way to bring the participants back together. (Husband(s) and wife(s), siblings, parent-child, friends as well as girl-/boyfriends)
As a certified mediator, I will not provide you with any ready-made solutions. What we will do is work together until we find a solution which all parties consider to be fair and equitable. The important thing is that once the conflict is laid aside, the parties can maintain a good relationship with one another. The reason this is possible is that mediation seeks to reconcile the interests and needs of all those involved.
It is not a question of doing battle, but of learning how to cooperate.
From my experiencing with work with clients, I understand the dynamics of conflicts and the patterns behind. These patterns of behavior go back to experiences and learnings in the past. They differ from person to person. Some people become defensive, sometimes aggressive, some people follow the impulse to run away, and others shut down. A clash of different temperaments might provoke the opposite of the desired reaction of the partner, intensifying the conflict and making it even more difficult to find a solution. In such moments it is crucial for both partners to understand that different ways of reaction do exist and that we have first to focus on our own feelings and emotions. Already Aristoteles said, that if we want to change the world, we have first to start with ourselves.
My expertise and experiences as a therapist therfore assist my work deeply.
The Story of the Orange
Two persons are fighting over an orange. They finally agree to cut the orange into two equal parts. Both return home. The first person bakes a cake and needs the skin. The other person makes a fruit juice. Had both thought to ask the other what he or her needs, each could have taken away the whole orange, since one needed only the skin and the other only the fruit. That is basically what mediation is about.